It can be very complicated.
It can also be a lot of fun.
Meeting people is exciting and I think everyone should try it at least once. You just gotta be careful and keep your guard up. Be smart about it, also be realistic! Don’t go in thinking you are going to find Prince Charming, or your future wife.
I just met a guy this past weekend and to be honest I’m not sure if I’ll see him again. Which is fine and I know not to take it personally. With online dating you can’t take anything personally.
I love this question!
As I’ve grown older I’ve learned to love myself just the way I am. I’m not perfect and I know this. I battled in the past with being self conscious with my weight, my height, my face etc, but I have realized that none of those things define who I am as a person. Appearance is not everything, if anything it’s just a shell. What matters (super cliche) is what’s in the inside.
I’m going to admit something that should be pretty brutal for me to admit, but it’s situations I’ve encountered. I’ve had guys tell me on first dates they second guess meeting me because of my weight. They’ve admitted quickly changing their minds once they got to know me and found that my personality made me incredibly attractive. And I’ve had guys tell me they found my appearance attractive as well also. You have to remember that not everyone is the same, what one person finds attractive about you the other one most likely won’t. We are all beautiful creatures and we should celebrate this more often. Trust me when I say once you accept and learn to love who you are (mind, body and soul) others will learn to love those things about you also.
If your skinny, thick, chubby, fat, toned, average, athletic, triangle, star or whatever, just remember you are beautiful just the way you are. My advice is to simply love what you have and who you are. Just love yourself. It’s really that simple. One day you will meet someone who will love you for the things that make you self conscious and in their eyes you will be perfect.
I don’t think all guys necessarily are intimidated by goal oriented, smart and confident girls. I believe some are, but girls are equally guilty of being intimidated by a guy also. We get intimidated by someone who has their (excuse my language) shit together.
I’ve encountered guys who were intimidated by what I’ve accomplished so early in my adulthood. I myself, have also been intimidated by guys as well. It’s literally a pissing contest, even with girls in the mix. Naturally we are all jealous individuals. It’s silly, yes, but it’s true. There is nothing wrong with being confident, it doesn’t mean you’re cocky. Being confident is about having high self- esteem, being comfortable with who you are and being sure of yourself. I’ll admit I can be a bit overly confident sometimes, but I will never apologize for it. I don’t think I’m better than anyone, but also, I don’t believe I’m below anyone else either.
Honestly kiddo I wouldn’t let it bother you. Remember you’re not the only one who needs to impress a guy, the guy need to impress you also. If you’re goal oriented, strong, witty, smart, confident then that’s awesome. Never be embarrassed with who you are. Also never feel like you have to change yourself to please someone, that’s bullshit and you should stomp your own foot if you ever do that! I’ll admit I did it once for a guy and I will never do it again. It was a way for him to feel more sure of himself which in the end was very pathetic on both our parts. It okay to be selfish sometimes and think about yourself.
I’ve had to really think about this recently. I’ve come to the conclusion that Nirvana is my favorite band.
(I know very stereotypical Seattle-like of me)
Last 5 songs:
1. Riptide by Vance
2. Pull My Heart Away by Jack Penate
3. Eyes by Peter Bjorn and John
4. The Underdog by Spoon
5. Girlfriend In A Coma by The Smiths